Selecting Consequences That Train – Part 2

Selecting Consequences That Train – Part 2

Feb 08

Inappropriate Consequences

There are several signs for us that we need to take a step back and evaluate our parenting.  One of those signs is consistent yelling.  When we yell at our children we make ourselves the consequence and begin to remove our relationship from them.

There are several reasons why parents yell.  Yelling may be the only parenting style we have observed.  It is also a sign of exhaustion; we are so tired that our fuse is short.  Another reason is that we may forget that children will act like children, and we are taking their behavior personally.  There may not be a plan for consequences in our home so we resort to yelling.  It may also be a sign that there is too much stress in our lives and our children are getting the brunt of it.

Give yourself permission to take a time out.  If you are yelling at your children take a moment to calm yourself and then continue the discussion.  You may just need to step away from the situation for a moment to think of a proper consequence.  If you do yell, which we all will at times, take the time to apologize to your children.  Then sit down and get out in front of the consequences for the next time. This way you will be more prepared and won’t have to resort to yelling.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on yelling.