Selecting Consequences That Train – Part 1

Selecting Consequences That Train – Part 1

Feb 07

The Purpose of Selecting the Right Consequences

One of the hardest things for a parent to understand is the difference between consequence and punishment. A punishment is something that happens after the fact, given from one person to another.  It can be an emotional reaction by the parent to the negative behavior and therefore taken personally by the child.

A consequence is a direct result of a behavior and is something that’s been communicated ahead of time.  The purpose is to reform the negative behavior and should teach cause and effect.   When a consequence is communicated ahead of time it is easy to begin to train the child that they “chose” the consequence based on their behavior.  It takes the parent out of the equation and allows for the restoration of relationship. It is important to sit down as spouses and come up with consequences that fit the behavior.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on consequences.